Importance Of Self -Talk
Do you speak to yourself? Amazing job! Positive self-talk statements can ease stress, increase memory power, and focus on what you need. Give the right pep talk to yourself and release pent-up fears or stalked feelings. But what’s the right pep talking about?
Remember the cartoons depicting self-talking through cute little bubbles? How often do you see bubbles like this around you? Your inner voice is fond of talking, but a keen listener is needed. Self-talk, according to experts, leads to more self-discipline, more empowerment, and a host of other self-benefits–definitely not worth missing!
Take a minute to reflect on what you said to yourself today. Was it critical? Or was it helpful and kind? After engaging in this inner discussion, how did you feel? The source of your emotions and mood is your thoughts. You can have destructive or beneficial conversations with yourself. They are influencing how you feel about yourself and how you respond to your life’s events.
What is self-talk?
Self-talking is something you do during your waking hours naturally. People become more aware that positive self-discussion is a powerful tool to increase self-confidence and curb negative emotions. It is believed that people who can master positive self-talk are more confident, motivated, and productive.
How does self-talk work?
While positive self-talk naturally comes to some, most people need to learn how to cultivate positive thoughts and dissipate negative thoughts. With practice, thinking good thoughts can become more natural than bad ones.
supportive and affirming is positive self-talk.
“I shall speak today at the meeting because I have to contribute something important.” That sounds like a positive plan and attitude.
The above sentence is an example of positive self-talk.
Rumination: Negative self-talk:
The flip side of positive self-talk is rumination. It happens when you in your head repeatedly replay upsetting or cringe-worthy thoughts or events. It can be helpful to think through a problem, but if you spend a lot of time ruminating, small issues tend to be snowballing.
Constant rumination can increase your chances of experiencing depression or anxiety.
This statement shows that negative thoughts can grow and become self-defeating:
“In this dress, I look so fat. I’m fat indeed. Look at the thighs. I can’t get a date, no wonder. Why can’t I lose my weight? It is impossible.
Benefits of Talking to Yourself
1. Improvement in decision-making skills:
More often than not, better decision-makers are those who know how to do positive self-talk. You keep organizing your thoughts, solving conflicts and making a move forward when you start talking constructively to yourself. When you reach a point where your decision needs to be frozen, your mind is crystal-clear–with all the advantages and disadvantages in place.
2. Improve concentration:
When you ask yourself what to say, then focus on what you are doing and what you want. Once you canalize your energy and thoughts in one direction, you will begin to see more clearly the goal you want to achieve. Consistent self-talking will prevent the distraction of your mind and greatly improve your level of concentration.
3. Loads of self-motivation:
Positive self-talking activities are designed to motivate you and help you get rid of your doldrums too. You eventually come out as a winner when you consistently assure to yourself that “I can” and “I will.” You simply look into yourself instead of looking at motivational speakers, self-proclaimed gurus, and other external drivers. You’ve got everything you need to boost yourself and get a grip.
4. Lighter mind and heart:
Remember, painful feelings bottled-up, negative thoughts, and other unhealthy emotions may lead to various mental and physical ailments. The importance of self-talking can be understood by how you can drain emotions, negativity, or aggression from your pent-up. Speaking to yourself about people or situations that have hurt you can help you to release toxins and improve your feeling.
How can self-talk affect your mental health?
You will mostly feel bad if you think negatively about yourself. It can push you down or it can be difficult to get back up if you are down. But if you think about yourself mainly positive, most of the time you will feel good. Research shows that good self-discussion can:
- Enhance Self-esteem, stress management, and wellbeing
- Reduce symptoms of depression, anxiety, and disorders of personality
- Enhance body image and can help people with eating disorders.
- Reduce the risk of suicide and self-harm.
Tips to improve positive self-talk:
- Practice yourself thinking good things.
- Seeing half a glass as half-full, rather than half-empty, is very simple.
- Identify your strengths as part of your self-talk and accept compliments for what you have achieved.
- Looking, thinking and acting in a positive way is a helpful way to improve positive self-talking.
Tips to stop negative self-talk:
There are many common ways in which people use negative self-talking. To break this cycle:
- Be aware of what you’re saying (often negative) to yourself.
- Ask yourself, is this true? (It’s not often)
- Put your thoughts (so what?) in perspective.
- Then ask yourself – what is a more helpful thought?
Recognizing your negative thoughts can take some time, remember they’ve been part of you for a long time, and changing old habits can take up to 3 months.
In many ways, self-talking is important. It’s the script we’re using to frame our lives. If we constantly give negative messages to ourselves, then we begin to develop automatic thoughts that take us from an incident to a negative emotional reaction. On the other hand, if we engage in positive self-talking, we start to look at the world in a more positive way and ultimately feel better about ourselves. We can’t always control what happens, but how we react to it can be controlled!
Also Read: What Is Ruminating And How To Stop It?