Signs A Narcissist Is Trying To Manipulate You
Narcissist manipulators rank among the top most toxic of all when it comes to the types of people in our lives that are simply not good for us. They are the people who only care about themselves and stop at nothing to get exactly what they want.
As such, when making decisions, a narcissist will always selfishly place their own needs, desires, and emotions first. And they will not think twice about using people for their own benefit. In their quest for personal power and success, they are relentless, which is why they are so manipulative and bad to be around.
You should be very aware of how exploited and driven they can never do anything. If you’ve ever had to deal with a manipulative narcissist. By knowing their tactics and how they work, you can protect yourself from the negative effects of their behavior.
Here are seven ways in which narcissists manipulate and benefit from others:
1. They play the victim card:
Narcissists love to play mind games and one of their favorites is pretending to be a victim. When they lead them to believe they are sick, in trouble, or need help, they get more attention and pity from others. You’re more likely to want to help them out when you feel sorry for them, and that’s exactly what they want.
They also use this tactic to justify their terrible behavior or to excuse them. They also make you less guarded and therefore more open to even more manipulation at their end by turning your focus away from all the negative, deceitful things they have done.
2. They’re using aggression and bullying:
All narcissists use fear tactics, from subtle threats to open physical violence to bully others in yielding and bending to their will. Intimidation is most often psychological and emotional in nature.
They could keep you from seeing families and friends and always make you feel dominant and in control and assault you verbally.
3. They downplay your achievements:
They often conceal their real colors when you first encounter a narcissist and come off as quite charming in fact. Also, They compliment you and construct you up so that they can subsequently break you down. It’s as if a switch is unexpectedly turned when that occurs and all those kind phrases go out the gate. They will devalue your achievements and pride so you can work harder to recover their favor and please them.
4. They guilt you into thinking everything is your fault:
They blame you with all the trouble and repercussions it brings with it for all their bad behavior. It’s inevitably your fault, no matter what the facts or the situation may be!
5. They’re only talking about themselves:
It’s a dead giving away that you’re dealing with a narcissist when everything you’re talking about is something and everything that’s related to them. They have nothing else to say and they can drone on themselves endlessly. When you finally get a word in and switch the topic, they’re going to direct the focus back to them as if they haven’t even heard a word that you said first.
6. They’re using triangulation:
This is when a narcissist, you and another individual are all engaged in a triangular mind game of sorts. The other person is brought in by the narcissist after being led to believe that you are in the wrong or the problem. Basically, the heat is removed from the narcissist by pitting you and a third party against each other, as is any blame, and they get off scot-free.
The other person will also stand up for them and support them, and this feeds right into their constant need to be loved and perceived as right.
7. They Never Change:
Once a narcissist, always a narcissist. They will keep acting shallow, manipulating, and deceiving until the day they die. They do not have any medicine or cure, and therapy is also ineffective. Their problems are deeply rooted in their minds and embedded in their personalities.
They will just move forward on to their next unsuspecting victim and start to destroy their lives.
8. Silent Treatment:
Manipulative people love to use the silent treatment. It is a “standard tactic of manipulation.” Also silent treatment a form of “emotional back door” where they use passive manipulation instead of talking head-on about their emotions.
Those who have learned to be manipulative can always twist their own words against you to use them. This practice is referred to as gas lighting. This is one of the most dangerous signs of all when a person repeatedly twists your words in an effort to make you feel like the crazy one.
One of the most common mistakes in the relationship world is to choose a manipulative narcissist to date. If you are currently being manipulated by one of these types, the following signs will slowly begin to manifest themselves.