As the coronavirus marches across the world, our lives have turned messy. It would appear like the only way to avoid it is to withdraw and sit at home and maintain a social distance. And none of them comes naturally to us, to our children in particular. Just like we’re loaded with anxiety and tension, so are our children loaded with complicated emotions. They have a constant stream of bad news about coronavirus and are also anxious to see us. This can be a traumatic time for our kids in many ways. While it is reasonable to have some frustration, it is essential to ensure that our kids are not involved in all this negativity. If we want them to become happy, secure, and well-adjusted adults, we need to help our children become resilient. Continue reading for the tips to build resilience in children.
What Is Resilience?
Resilience is that ineffable attribute that enables other people to survive and come back even stronger than ever before. They find a way to stand out from the ashes instead of letting defeat overwhelm them and sap their determination.
Research shows that while children are faced with the same risks and stresses, each child reacts or reacts differently. Such conditions have adverse effects on some youngsters, while others are more resilient. Children who are adaptive, challenged, and negatively adjusting to the world effectively and learning how to make changes are emotionally healthy and less vulnerable to tension, anxiety, and mental illnesses.
By creating resilience, the ability to bounce forward from a tough situation, help your child overcome the stress and anxiety of the COVID-19 pandemic.
Strategies to Build Resilience In Children
Parents can help children grow resilience and face challenges by training them individually to overcome problems. Although the parent’s initial reaction can be to step in and help the child escape pain, this weakens resilience. Children must have the pain to learn how to deal with it and improve their own problem-solving skills. Until the awareness, children would be nervous and shut down in the face of adversity. Here are some strategies to build resilience in children.
1. Encourage Healthy Risk Management
It is necessary for an environment where children take healthy risks, in which playing areas are made “safe” with bouncing floor materials and helicopter parenting. What’s a good risk? Anything that drives a child beyond the comfort zone, which does very little harm if they fail. If children avoid danger, the idea that they aren’t powerful enough to meet obstacles is internalized. They learn to push themselves as children take risks.
2. Encourage The Bright Side — Each Experience Has One
Optimism and resilience go together. Some children may appear more optimistic naturally than other children, but they can nurture optimism. Recognize the emotions that contribute to pessimism in your mind, and teach your child to reframe his thoughts in order to find something positive.
3. Establish a Strong Emotional Bond
Spend time with your children one by one. Children build skills in coping with their loving relationships, so it is important to spend time with them one by one. You have to put down your smartphone and concentrate on your child. When children are aware of a parent, family member, or even a teacher who helps them without restriction, they are encouraged to seek advice and try to cope with challenging circumstances. Positive connections allow adults to model children’s abilities in coping and solving problems.
4. Resist The Urge To Resolve The Issue And Ask Questions
The natural answer to these questions is to talk to or explain when children come to parents to resolve their problems. Questioning is a safer tactic. The parent encourages the child to think about the issue and to provide answers by returning questions to the child.
5. Mark Emotions
Emotions run hot when tension begins. Let your children know that every feeling is significant and that it will help them make sense of what they experience. Tell them that it’s all right to have fear, depression, envy, etc., that the negative feelings normally happen.
6. Recognize Mistakes — Yours and Theirs
Avoiders of errors lack resilience. In fact, the evaders of failure tend to be very anxious children. When parents concentrate on end results, they get caught up in the process of pass/fail. Whether they succeed or fail. This gives rise to risk avoidance. Embracing errors (including your own) helps to foster a mentality about development and gives children the impression that mistakes help them learn. Thinking about a mistake you made and how you learned from it will help.
7. Problem Solving Skill Teaching
The aim is not to promote robust self-reliance. Sometimes we all need help, and it’s important for kids to know that they’ve got help. Parents engage in the problem-solving process by brainstorming solutions with children. Encourage children to come up with a list of concepts and consider the risks of each.
8. Design Resilience
Modeling résilience is the best way to teach it. Many of us have circumstances that are overwhelming. Using coping mechanisms to calm them down. Deep breathing can be an efficient way of working through stress. Often mark the feelings and speak about the process of solving problems.
9. Sense of Belonging
If your children belong to a community, whether they be family, friends, or a religious, they have a feeling of belonging. They feel linked with others, which helps them to rise up against hurdles.
- Encourage your child to join team sports, theater, choir, or community events. Any of those things would have to wait or be carried out online until the lockout is over.
- Children will meet online during this lock-down period to do experiments, make music together, play video games, and more.
- Join spiritual classes with your kids.
10. ‘I CAN’ Attitude
Today, children face numerous obstacles, including having to attend school at home and taking online classes. It can also be a stressful experience without face-to-face communication with teachers and peers. If your kid thinks ‘yes, I can’ in these circumstances, you know they are ready to move forward. Here is how your child can develop an attitude of ‘I CAN:’
- Encourage decision making and problem-solving. Let your child schedule and prepare their lessons. Guide them to prepare the plan for younger children.
- If your child is older, include her in making family choices such as how much food to buy, how to help parents get their work done in the workplace, etc.
- Give gratitude and appreciation for the effort your child has made.
- Depending on your child’s age, including your child in chores around the house.
- Divide complicated tasks into smaller ones, so that your child can achieve little progress.
- Your kid must realize he can still learn and develop if he can’t do something yet.
- So encourage your child to continue learning and exploring.
So these are some strategies to build resilience in children.
“While your current life is less pleasant than the one that you had before, reassurance is embraced. You can fight it, you can either yell what you have lost, or you can embrace it and try to pull together something positive. “So, during this time of distress, think of what your children and you can put together in order to make this for you and your family a healthier, happier place. You are now lucky enough to raise a strong child.
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